12 MOST IMPORTANT METRICS FOR YOUR CHILD'S (AND YOUR) EDUCATION
My FB news feed are filled with toddlers already enrolled in schools for all sorts of development and I get fleeting moments of panic because I might not be doing enough for S's education. Y and I already agreed that we will never pressure S when it comes to her grades but oftentimes, my motherly pride gets in the way. Before I got to read this post, I remember the first time I tried to teach S to count 1 to 10 and how frustrated I got that despite repetitions, she never got it right. I stopped teaching her because I was starting to lose my cool and at the back of my mind I cannot help but remember my news feed of toddlers being able to count already, which by the way, is completely foolish. And much to my surprise, S counted until twelve. I had an epiphany: my motherly pride was starting to grow horns. This post is a reminder of the much more bigger and important things that I need to teach my daughter. I was humbled by this post.
HOW TO GIVE YOUR KIDS EVERYTHING BUT A SENSE OF FULFILLMENT
The line that caught me most was this... "As parents, despite wanting to give our kids everything, one of the greatest gifts we can give is to literally give less, to force decision-making and awareness among all their choices."
Again, I remembered Y and I were doing our afternoon walk with S around our subdivision that we came across a little girl playing with her colorful bicycle. S lingered, trying to plead with her eyes to the girl that she be allowed to ride the bicycle. And yet, the girl did not share. I have to tell you that seeing my daughter with that pleading expression on her face made me want to go downtown and buy her a bicycle without second thought. I felt I was the worst mother for allowing my daughter to feel that way. However, I am thankful for 2 things: we live quite far and my husband is more level headed than me. He reminded me that her honorary Ninong Xy gifted S with a twist car earlier that year and S does not know how to ride the bicycle yet and assured me we will get her one once she knows how to.
I personally believe that there is nothing wrong with buying our kids toys because toys are great tools for their learning. However, I also believe that toys must either be: given on special occassions and chosen well (with careful assessment that they can be used for a long time and for the educational value that they can give). I remember Francis Kong once said in his book (I cannot remember the title,sorry!) that as parents, we do not want our children to experience the hardships that we have been through that is why we cannot help but try to make everything easy for them - WHICH IS ACTUALLY DOING THEM A GREAT DEAL OF WRONG. It is through the hardships that they will learn about themselves. I think there really is value in delayed gratification. I am thankful for that afternoon with the pleading eyes. I am reminded again of my important duty as a parent.
7 HABITS OF A HOT MARRIAGE IN THE MIDDLE OF MONOTONY
I totally agree with this blog because it is really easy to be "neglectful" of our spouses especially with all our other responsibilities. I found a common denominator among all the marriage articles I've read: Relationship with spouse comes first before our children. I, for one would say that it is very, very, very difficult because our children's needs are immediate and it is always easy to say that our adult partner
I always knew that marriage will be hard work, I mean, just look at our parents. But I saw the work as their child - not as a spouse. And I knew the work will be harder but definitely enjoyable because after all, I am with my husband, the partner God has blessed me with.
The author of the post said it right: "And a lukewarm marriage, perhaps the worst, filled with idle days, stagnant affection and distant intimacy." I greatly appreciate the 7 habits because no matter how simple they seem, it takes great effort. So tell me how yours went, okay?
So there. I hope you all have a great and reflective weekend :)
PS: I found the links from Truly Rich Mom and Facebook friends and page (Ate Anna and The Learning Basket or was it Alex? Either way, thank you).